Blessed Nest

Home doesn’t have to be perfect to be a blessing. View it as a blessing and you can treasure and cherish it, taking care of it out of gratitude.

 

 

I recently went on a two week road trip. Maybe it’s just the pregnancy hormones, but I got so homesick! I missed everything about my home, including being able to take care of my home. I couldn’t WAIT to get home so I could clean it, keep it tidy, make it lovely and welcoming. I guess I just got a different perspective after being away, and I started thinking of my home as a precious precious blessing. When you love something and cherish it, you want to take care of it! Before, house cleaning felt like a burden, something that I had to do.

When I got back, I spent most of the next week cleaning. In fact, remember that handy checklist I posted on Saturday? I used that and completed all of my 3x weekly, weekly, AND MONTHLY tasks in just one week. I didn’t love all of the tasks themselves, but I loved that I was in my home and able to give it the TLC it needed.

The lesson I took away from that was that perspective can change everything. It can change the perceived difficulty of tasks, it can change energy levels, it can change motivation. I’m so thankful for the chance to miss my home and the chance to come back and take care of it. 🙂 Of course, that did wear off and this week I’m not quite so perky on the cleaning front, but that’s okay! I took advantage of it while I had it, and I’m going to find new ways to remind myself how grateful I am for this home!

Procrastination vs Cold Hard Logic

You know what’s silly?

Procrastination.

 

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I’m a self-employed portrait photographer, and like a good responsible business owner I charge sales tax for any physical goods sold (prints). Then I file and send in that sales tax, four times a year. Except, I missed a due date. It was the holidays, I was busy… okay I just didn’t want to do it. I thought it would be hard (even though the first time wasn’t) and I didn’t want to have to do all the math and look through my records, and I just… put it off.

 

Then I got pregnant and basically did NOTHING for a month or two. I felt so sick and tired all the time. Sure, filing for taxes takes almost zero physical effort, and my laptop was right on the couch with me, and the internet doesn’t mind if you have morning sickness. But I didn’t feel good and the last thing I felt like doing was filing taxes!

Then… I missed another due date. Seriously. I’m not kidding. That’s how embarrassing this is. Now, this second return I didn’t file, would have been a $0.00 return because I stopped selling physical goods and only offered services, to which sales tax doesn’t apply. That could mean “Oh good, filing will be super easy!”, but to me it meant, “I don’t owe them money anyway so it’s not a huge pressing issue and I still don’t feel that good and I’ll do it soon. Maybe.”

Then I got a letter saying I failed to file. Apparently they like their money? Weird.

Then I got a letter saying that I still hadn’t filed and if I didn’t respond within 30 days, they would estimate a return and just bill me for it.

AND I STILL PUT IT OFF FOR ANOTHER WEEK.

For this entire six month period, every time I thought about taxes I would feel a little pang of guilt, panic, anxiety, or regret. The longer I put it off the more uncomfortable it was to think about! How embarrassing that I would let it slide for so long. Even if I didn’t owe much money ($5!) it was irresponsible to put it off like that. How discouraging! How horrible! How uncomfortable!

Well, filing was on my list of Five Things today. When there’s only five things on your entire list, and one of them was blow drying your hair, it’s hard to make excuses to not do everything on the list.

I forgot my password, I couldn’t figure out how to do it, I had to mess around for awhile… and then it was super easy. I probably spend twenty minutes trying to figure things out, and ten minutes filing. Thirty minutes. For six months I was putting off thirty minutes of uncomfortable stressful work. For six months I procrastinated, stressed, regretted, and put off. I thought it would be hard – it wasn’t. I thought there would be a lot of calculations involved – I had to add three numbers together. Which I did by hand. I thought it would be stressful – well, not as stressful as getting threatening letters from the government!

So, this is why procrastination is silly. If something is uncomfortable and you procrastinate doing it, you’re stringing out that uncomfortable feeling for as long as you possibly can before disposing of it. Why? Sometimes we think it’ll be worse than it really is, sometimes we aren’t sure how to do it, sometimes we don’t want to dedicate the resources to knocking it out. But isn’t just doing it easier than dreading it and hating it and feeling bad about it – and then at the end, you still have to do it anyway? You have to do it either way!

 

Are you going to spend time hating it for awhile first and then do it, or are you going to do it now?

Inspirational Moment

What prompted me to start this blog?

It was an emotional conversation with my husband. I was expressing to him that I didn’t always feel fulfilled being a housewife, but I didn’t understand why! I wanted SO BADLY to be a great housewife. It was a huge priority for me! I truly, in my heart, wanted to be an excellent keeper of the home. So why did I feel so unhappy as a housewife?

I remembered a quote, one of my all time favorite quotes in fact:

“No one really hates math. They just hate feeling stupid.”

Think about it! People who feel stupid in math class because they aren’t successful, will learn to “hate math”. But truly, they hate how they feel. If they can just be given the appropriate tools to be successful and FEEL successful… well, then they won’t hate it, will they?

I don’t hate being a housewife, either. I LOVE being a housewife. I’m just very, very frustrated sometimes because I feel unsuccessful. Sometimes I work all day and feel there’s nothing to show for it. Sometimes I get a lot done, but when I step back and look it’s barely made a dent in the big picture. Most often, I have trouble getting busy in the first place and I spend much of the day trying to motivate myself to get going – and wondering where the time has flown so quickly. I would give myself a 4/10 rating on how well I do this housewife thing. Now tell me. If you were working a job where you felt UNsuccessful 80% of the time, you never reached meaningful goals, and you felt unfit for the task at hand… would you feel fulfilled and happy?

Then I realized the best part. Anyone can be taught math, and learn to do math well. I bet anyone can succeed at being a housewife, too! In fact, I don’t suck at housekeeping. I really don’t. I just have specific struggles and have not yet found the tools to overcome them. All I need is the right tools and I’m going to be a truly fantastic housewife. I just know it!

So, that was when I decided to face my struggles head on, research how to overcome them, and learn the techniques for success. When I realized how very much I wanted to be successful and how very frustrated I had become, I knew there must be other women out there just like me. What if I could help them and help myself at the same time? The very best way to learn something, is to teach it to someone else. And I never want anyone else to feel stuck and unhappy doing something they could be successful in! Let’s do this together. I’ll be honest about my struggles and triumphs. I’ll do the research to learn management techniques, pitfalls and how to avoid them, and how to rock this. All you have to do is read, comment, and share.

Let’s be awesome.

 

I can do this. You can too.